About Me — Lazar Ioana Emilia

Stepping forward With Shame

Who I am and what to expect from interactions with me.

In recent years I have been interested in becoming ever clearer about who I am as a person and as a professional, what I offer, what I do not offer, and in becoming excellent at what I offer. I have wished — sometimes to excess — to be honest about my strengths and weaknesses so that there is transparency about who I am and what represents me in action, word, and thought, in every interaction.

I want to thank everyone who has helped me get here. My teachers, mentors, collaborators and clients — and I thank those who judged me, who told me I couldn't, who rejected me, who disappointed me and whom I disappointed. You all showed me the hidden facets of my personality, meticulously built to gain approval, validation, and thus to survive. I feel deep gratitude for every person I have met on my path.

In light of the experiences I have lived through so far — ranging from tragic to miraculous — I have learned and gathered a great deal of knowledge, compassion and wisdom to share with others. Curiosity is the North of my inner compass with regard to psychology, spirituality, mysticism and the occult.

About the meaning of the name

What does an alchemist mean?

Historically, an alchemist was a person who practised alchemy: an early blend of proto-chemistry, philosophy, symbolism and spiritual search. In the classical sense, alchemists sought the transformation of matter, for example the turning of ordinary metals into gold.

In a modern and symbolic sense, the alchemist is the person who transforms something raw, heavy or confused into something clearer, more valuable and more integrated. We are no longer speaking about metals, but about:

transforming suffering into understanding;
transforming fear into clarity;
transforming shame into acceptance;
transforming a “mask” into a more authentic identity;
transforming inner blockages into gateways toward a wider and deeper sense of meaning.

How I work

In my work, I focus on transforming the things we have carried as labels, masks or protective mechanisms into clarity, meaning and authenticity. Alchemy here does not mean magic, but process: we look gently at what has been difficult, understand what it protected, and choose small steps toward who we truly are. Blue symbolises the safe space, calm and depth in which this transformation can take place.

What I offer

crisis support and guidance
deep transformation
change in transgenerational patterns
connection with your inner child
safe space and techinques for trauma processing and integration
emotions identification
integration of rejected parts
financial education
career directions
innovative solutions
self-knowledge questions
manifestation techniques
empathy and integrity
clarity and reason
self-confidence
shadow work
compatibility in relationships
different perspectives
encouragement
expression and communication
conflict resolution
active listening
presence and focus
deep connection
compassion
healthy boundaries
unmet needs
stress management
language transformation
archetype — powers and lessons
tarot
human design
meditation techniques
empowerment and humour

What I do not offer

I do not validate the ego that wants to confirm its victim story
I do not work with people who do not want to change
I do not work with people who want to prove they know everything
I do not work with people who do not listen to other perspectives
I do not keep people in therapy for decades
I do not work according to the psychiatry-based diagnostic system
I do not promote systems created to the detriment of the majority
I do not work with people who do not want to feel
I do not work with people sent by force by family members
I do not work with children (teenagers 16+ sometimes, depending on context)
I do not do couples or family therapy
I do not work for free

Beyond my degree, training programmes, master's, courses and mentorships of the past 15 years, a large part of me is self-taught — obsessed with knowledge and with seeking answers to humanity's unanswerable questions. A part that likes to innovate, to tread uncharted paths, to catalyse change and to hold two opposing perspectives in mind simultaneously. The only constant in my life is change — and that is what I will do for as long as I live.

Professional Roots

Psychology University of Oradea
Clinical Psychology, Counselling & Therapy Master — Babeș-Bolyai University
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Family Therapy Association, Timișoara
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Professional training — Bucharest
Personal Development Counsellor Titu Maiorescu University, Faculty of Psychology
Systemic Couple and Family Therapy Family Therapy Association, Timișoara

If you have read this far, it means that something in your subconscious recognises something in mine. I bring my palms together, place them before half my face, and say a warm:
thank you for being, and I am glad you chose to play with me in the game of the cosmic mind.