I work with people who feel like they are living a life that does not belong to them. People who wake up in the morning and do not know who they are, why they do what they do and where they are going. People who are curious about what is hidden beyond what is apparent, who want to know and see what they do not know and what they do not see. Simpler put, people who want to make the unconscious, conscious.
I am useful for people who go through identity crises, through separations, through losses, through pain they can not handle, through reversals of situation from which they no longer see a way out.
People who want to walk the path of awareness, the path of identifying their values, the repetitive patterns that show up in their lives, the way to transform traumas in integrity, in short, people who choose to be whole rather than just being good. I am suitable for people who want to go in depth in their process of change and who want to go beyond the limits of the psychology, psychiatry and psychotherapy systems. My work is intense, structured and focused on what the client can handle in the present moment.
Structure built around your own rhythmI challenge what is stagnant, I create change
Clarity, results, visible changeA safe space and a non-judgmental approach focused on results and deep change
Integration of polaritiesShadow work
Lazar Ioana Emilia · clarity · rationality · deep transformation
You are not the identity you built to survive and feel safe in a world that is fragmented and disconnected from emotions.
You deserve a good quality of life, fulfilling relationships based on compatibility and to find your purpose and the meaning of why you are here. I assure you that if you are still breathing, you have a purpose here on Earth..
My vision
I believe in the capacity of transformation: we are not defined by our false personality build to feel safe and we can understand what its role. We work with old loyalties to the family of origin, the mask of survival and the deep needs that have remained unmet in the shadows. We deconstruct coping mechanisms, by honoring, understanding and changing their role and building an authentic personality based on your deep values and a mature and healthy ego. We revisit the painful memories, we release the emotions stuck in the emotional body and in the body, we fulfill de needs of the vulnerable parts frozen in time and space by resolving the initial distress. In a practical way, we let go of what is not working and we replace that with what is in the benefit of all.
What does an alchemist do?
“The alchemist was concerned with the problem of how to implant the soul in the body, or, expressed in psychological terms, how to bring the unconscious into reality or, conversely, how to translate the unconscious contents into the language of consciousness.”
Jung, C. G. (1968). Psychology and alchemy (R. F. C. Hull, Trans.). In H. Read et al. (Eds.), The collected works of C. G. Jung (Vol. 12, 2nd ed.). Princeton University Press. (Original work published 1944)
Jung explains that while Christianity focused primarily on the salvation of the soul (often separating it from the body), the alchemists were deeply occupied with the union of soul and body, how to bring the divine spark (soul/spirit) fully into matter (the body and the physical world).
For them, redemption was not just about escaping the body but transforming and spiritualizing it through the alchemical opus.
This symbolizes the psychological process of individuation: integrating the unconscious (soul) with conscious life (body) to achieve wholeness.
Between the false self and the true self loyalties to the family of origin are made conscious.
We often remain loyal to the people who raised us even if it hurts us and even if it no longer fits the current framework we live in. We clarify the patterns, the mechanisms and the beliefs of the false self, recognize and undo the loyalties that hold you back from moving towards an authentic self and find ways to transform these so you can go forward on your path to creating your true self.
Practice, perseverence, safety
Practice and perseverance create stable and long term change. We do not force the process — we challenge what is not working and we cultivate concrete steps that take into account your resources. The purpose of all these is a solid foundation, resilience, individual empowerement and also empowerement through others.
Note: I am a holistic psychologist and a counselor in times of crises and awakening. i do not offer diagnoses and do not replace psychotherapy or psychiatry. If you are in treatment, our work can be complementary and oriented towards depth, integration and personal development.
Counselling directions
We set objectives, we choose a clear direction and we plan in measurable ways, how to achiece success.
False identity and authenticity
I help you distinguish between who you learned to be and who you truly are. I willl guide you to connect with your innerchild and with the parts that you created to protect him.
deep awareness through play and humour
Values in your relationships and boundaries
We explore the costs and the benefits of old surviving strategies and we build new ways of being based on compatibility and interdependence and by changing your thoughts stuck between only I matter or only others matter to i matter and others matter too.
Clarity, creativity, win win solutions
Realistic parenting
Support for exhausted parents who want pragmatic solutions, not impossible ideals.
Support and community
Interdependence between internal parts and their integration
We work with the protectors and the vulnerable parts through seeing them, hearing them, feeling them and recognise the value in them so we can change their role and give the opposite experience compared to the one that happened in childhood and that created separation. the result will be healing and achieving a state of internal harmony and cohesion. The intention is Self Love.
Compassion, congruence, integrity
How we work
A clear process, through exercises and questions, oriented towards what you can sustain right now.
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Clarification, identification of the resources and the resistances
We define the main theme, your needs and what you want to achieve in a pragmatic way. We discover your fears and take care of them.
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Exploration through play and understanding
We work with protectors, we identify the negative loyalties and the beliefs that keep your story stuck and you in it.
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Integration
We build small, concrete steps using the resources you have right now.
Message for parents
You are not alone. You don't have to do everything perfectly to be a good parent. Kids need parents that are happy and that are choosing to live their life.
Parents are exhausted, and society is not built to support the family. That is why we look for real solutions: people who can complement what you lack.
Actively seek support and community.
Make a list of what you can offer and what you can not ofer in your relationships.
Find "borrowed grandparents" or families to team up with.
Don't blame yourself for what you cannot offer right now. If we would have been made to give and be everyhting, we wouldn't need nobody.
Key idea
When we choose often and only what gives us comfort on the short term, we keep the same patterns that hurt us and others on the long term. When we choose what is uncomfortable on the short term, we create the foundation for a life that feels good on the long term.
” The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.” Carl Rogers
Questions to help you clarify your objectives and expectations towards the process of transformation.
For those who contemplate working with me
What do I want for myself in this moment in time and why?
What risks am I willing to take to achieve what I want and what risks I am not willing to take and why?
What am I afraid i will loose if i go in the direction of what i want?
What will I gain if i go in the dorection of what I want?
If I stay where I am without changing anything about myself or my life, where can i see myself in 5 years from now?
What am I willing to fight for?
What is worth suffering for?
What do I want bad enough that no amount of failure would stop me from trying to get that thing?
If I were not afraid to admit to myself, what would i admit that i want for myself?
What am I hiding from others and why is it hidden?
What bad thing would happen if i would choose to be happy?
Pain and what to do with it
4 rules to process your pain more easily
Stop trying to get over the pain quickly. The only way out is through — and like Rumi said: The cure for the pain is in the pain.
Declare defeat or admit to the reality of how you feel. For example: if you are going through a breakup, admit to the fact that you feel heartbroken.
Allow the flooding of the emotional waves to go through you. Set a time in the day where you can allow those feelings to take over your body and be completely present with them.
Find the meaning you are assigning to what happened to you. For example: if you were cheated on, what do you make it mean? That you are not good enough? Question that meaning gently: are you 100% sure? What other perspectives make you feel better?
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